A Texas mother has expressed frustration over her adult son’s refusal to contribute to household responsibilities while living at home. The son, aged 20, works full-time but does not assist with chores or financial obligations, including car insurance. Complicating matters, he has moved his girlfriend and a dog into the family home without permission, leading to escalating tensions.
The mother, identified as Exasperated Mom, reached out for advice on how to address her son’s behavior. She noted that discussions about his future, including financial independence and household contributions, often devolve into shouting matches, with her son reacting violently by punching walls. His struggles with anxiety and depression, reportedly self-treated with marijuana, further complicate the family dynamic.
In response, advice columnist Dear Abby emphasized the importance of setting boundaries. She suggested that the parents make it clear that their son should have saved enough money to seek independent living arrangements. “By now, he should have saved enough money for a down payment on an apartment for him, his girlfriend, and the dog,” she wrote. Abby advised the parents to establish a firm deadline for their son to move out, even if it meant relocating to a less desirable neighborhood.
The columnist also addressed concerns regarding the son’s marijuana use, stating that unless prescribed by a doctor, he may be violating state laws. Such considerations highlight the complexities of parenting adult children, especially when mental health issues are involved.
In a separate inquiry, a woman in her early 30s, referred to as Worried Millennial, shared her decision to live a child-free life due to current societal challenges. She expressed concern about potential future loneliness and lack of care in old age. Abby reassured her that having children is not a guaranteed solution for future support. Instead, she recommended consulting with financial planners to secure her future.
Another letter addressed a marital concern about tax refunds. A woman, identified as Still Waiting, revealed that her husband consistently keeps their tax refund without sharing any portion with her. Abby characterized this behavior as selfish and controlling, encouraging the woman to assert her entitlement to the refund based on her contributions.
These letters reflect broader themes of parental responsibility, personal choices regarding family planning, and financial equity in relationships. Readers often seek guidance on navigating the complexities of adult life and relationships, highlighting the ongoing challenges faced by families in today’s society.
The insights provided by Dear Abby, distributed by Andrews McMeel Syndication, continue to resonate with audiences, offering both practical advice and emotional support.
